Jessica Graham demonstrates that a deep spiritual life and an extraordinary sex life are not mutually exclusive in this keenly personal and unflinchingly frank guide to finding mindfulness in sex without losing the fun and adventure. Not only a toolkit for creating a rich and deeply satisfying sex life, this playful, explicit, and transformative book conveys the deeper message of how combining meditation with sex can bring about profound spiritual awakenings. Graham discusses everything from open-eyed orgasms to threesomes to how to deal with a partner with a low sex drive. From a sex-positive and nontraditional stance she explores non-monogamy, the benefits of pornography, sexual trauma, consent, and much more.
TIPS • Mindfulness meditation • Communication • Non-monogamy • Addressing sexual trauma • Discovering what turns you on • BDSM • Safety • Developing true intimacy • Threesomes • The sex-spirituality connection • Celibacy • Working with your partner(s) • Overcoming shame • Being in the moment
Deconstructing Yourself is a blog that Wild Awakening creator, Jessica Graham, writes for. Jessica’s “Mindful Sex” series is featured on this site along with many other article by her and Michael W. Taft and meditation news.
“At Deconstructing Yourself, we share the life changing force that is meditation. As teachers, authors, and practitioners, we strive to extend beyond any particular religion or technique in order to welcome anyone into our community. Our original articles are written with honesty, authority, and curiosity, in hopes of encouraging, informing, and inspiring your meditation practice towards actual ongoing awakening. And we definitely don’t shy away from being controversial.”
—Deconstructing Yourself
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Going on a residential retreat is a way to super-charge your meditation practice. Here are some suggestions. But there are many more. Google is your friend.
