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Wild Awakening: Resources
Jessica Graham demonstrates that a deep spiritual life and an extraordinary sex life are not mutually exclusive in this keenly personal and unflinchingly frank guide to finding mindfulness in sex without losing the fun and adventure. Not only a toolkit for creating a rich and deeply satisfying sex life, this playful, explicit, and transformative book conveys the deeper message of how combining meditation with sex can bring about profound spiritual awakenings. Graham discusses everything from open-eyed orgasms to threesomes to how to deal with a partner with a low sex drive. From a sex-positive and nontraditional stance she explores non-monogamy, the benefits of pornography, sexual trauma, consent, and much more.
TIPS • Mindfulness meditation • Communication • Non-monogamy • Addressing sexual trauma • Discovering what turns you on • BDSM • Safety • Developing true intimacy • Threesomes • The sex-spirituality connection • Celibacy • Working with your partner(s) • Overcoming shame • Being in the moment
Deconstructing Yourself is a blog that Wild Awakening creator, Jessica Graham, writes for. Jessica’s “Mindful Sex” series is featured on this site along with many other article by her and Michael W. Taft and meditation news.
“At Deconstructing Yourself, we share the life changing force that is meditation. As teachers, authors, and practitioners, we strive to extend beyond any particular religion or technique in order to welcome anyone into our community. Our original articles are written with honesty, authority, and curiosity, in hopes of encouraging, informing, and inspiring your meditation practice towards actual ongoing awakening. And we definitely don’t shy away from being controversial.”
—Deconstructing Yourself
Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out
by Jessica Graham
The Mindful Geek: Secular Meditation for Smart Skeptics
by Michael W. Taft
The Science of Enlightenment: How Meditation Works
by Shinzen Young
The End Of Your World: Uncensored Straight Talk on the Nature of Enlightenment
by Adyashanti
I Am That: Talks with Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
by Nisargadatta Maharaj
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
by Pema Chödrön
The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
by Michael A. Singer
Why You’re Not Married…Yet: The Straight Talk You Need to Get the Relationship You Deserve
by Tracy McMillan
The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love
by Dedeker Winston
Song of Songs: A New Translation
by Christopher Kelly PhD
Slow Sex: The Art and craft of the Female Orgasm
by Nicole Daedone
The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity
by Julia Cameron
Sit, Talk, Don’t Walk: How I Survived a Silent Meditation Retreat
by Jennifer Howd
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
by Tristan Taormino
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
by David Schnarch PhD
Awakening: A Paradigm Shift of the Heart
by Rodney Smith
The Eastside Mindfulness Collective (LA)
A collective of like-hearted individual exploring secular spirituality through mindful living and learning in Los Angeles. Classes, social events, retreats, and workshops.
The Mindful Geek (Meditation Teacher, Michael W. Taft)
Mindfulness that works. Effective, hardcore practices step-by-step without religion or beliefs
Mahtava (Yoga and Meditation with Ashleigh Abramovich)
Ashleigh brings you a practice that is a spectacular experience of yoga, natural movement, meditation and play.
Whole Being Alignment
by Stella De Mont
Mission Acupuncture Works (LA – Dafna Laurie, LAC)
As holistic Chinese Medicine Practitioners, we consider all aspects of you and your life: Your body, mind, and spirit, your upbringing, your current and past lifestyle, and your stressors, goals and dreams.
Magic Hour Mobile Massage (LA – Jenoa Harlow)
My passion is facilitating pain relief through neuromuscular and myofascial medical massage. I have been melting muscles for 14 years in NYC, SF and now LA. Exact anatomical manipulations are my specialty. My goal is to get you back to doing whatever it is that you do best by doing what I do best.
Together (Podcast/Magazine/Coaching, Erik Newton)
We believe in love, and we believe in great relationships. We think that amazing partnerships are a matter of skill, not luck, and we obsess over what it takes to create them. It’s what inspires us every day.
Storytribe (Arrowyn Ambrose)
Story Tribe is a dynamic creative writing and performance program that connects people to their authentic selves, to one another, and their community through personal narrative.
Michael Kass (Breath-work & Leadership Coaching)
I work with people, organizations, and communities to help them reconnect with the power of their stories to create change.
Somatic Experiencing/EMDR (LA – Christine Ashe, MA, MFT Intern. #92996)
The truth is, the past often gets in the way of living life to its fullest. Do you feel emotionally drained, empty inside with thoughts of self-loathing? Maybe you are consumed with shame over memories or behaviors you cannot seem to control. Loss of sleep and an overall sense of irritability can overwhelm any sense of normalcy. This is not the real you- but how to get out from under it? Breakthroughs happen… when digging deep one needs an experienced hand to shine a light.
Fitzmaurice (Voicework & Public Speaking, Saul Kotzubei)
I am a voice and public speaking coach in Los Angeles who works with professionals, performers, and people interested in personal development.
Non-Monogamy Coaching (Dedeker Winston)
My mission is to provide a listening ear and one-on-one guidance for people who are polyamorous, non-monogamous, swingers, kinky, or interested in exploring any of the above. If you are considering opening your marriage, trying out polyamory, or struggling to find what kind of relationship is right for you, you have come to the right place.
Going on a residential retreat is a way to super-charge your meditation practice. Here are some suggestions. But there are many more. Google is your friend.
Wild Awakening: About & FAQ
Spiritual, sexual, and creative awakening is your birthright
You are a wild and beautiful human with a great capacity to evolve and awaken. Through meditation, mindfulness tools, self-inquiry, and writing exercises, you can wake up to the stunning magic and profound simplicity of life.
Jessica Graham created Wild Awakening to help guide you towards your most authentic spiritual, sexual, and creative expression. Jessica believes that trauma can be healed, resiliency can be learned, and brains can be rewired.
Wild Awakening is 100% secular, and can easily compliment any spiritual practice or religious belief. Our teachings are straight-forward, down-to-earth, and dogma-free.
Wild Awakening is dedicated to helping you become more human through psychospiritual evolution, using meditation and self-inquiry. Venture into the wilderness and wake up.
Photo credit: Shayan Asgharnia
Jessica Graham
Jessica Graham is a spiritual and sexual activist, author, meditation teacher, and sex and intimacy guide. Her love of spirituality began when she was just a tiny wild child. For her 6th birthday she wanted everyone to hold hands and meditate and she could often be found in the woods communing with nature.
Jessica began studying meditating in earnest in 2008 and started teaching soon after. Jessica is inspired by many teachers, but most dear to her heart are Shinzen Young, Adyashanti, and Tracy McMillan.
After a series of awakenings that radically shifted her paradigms, Jessica dedicated herself to helping others awaken. Her take on spiritual awakening is that it is a wild never-ending story that unfolds moment by moment. She doesn’t believe that there is a graduation date or a final perfect state.
Jessica also has a great passion for exploring sexuality and helping others heal, evolve, and awaken sexually. Her interest in sexuality has been lifelong and she draws on years of experience when working with clients. She is the author of Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out, now available wherever books are sold.
Jessica is also an award-winning actor and filmmaker. Through her multi-passionate life, Jessica hopes to model that you can be all the things. She believes that we humans are wild and mysterious and deserve to flaunt our spots and our stripes.
Frequently Asked Questions
Ideally, thirty to sixty minutes a day, but I know this is not feasible for a lot of people. Ten minutes a day is a great start. Over time you’ll be able to build it up. And keep in mind that you probably have more time than you think you do.
Yes you can! Try Positivity Boost, an audio guided meditation with Jessica Graham right now!
There are also many guided meditations and even full classes available on Wild Awakening YouTube channel.
Every day. This is pretty much a non-negotiable. You will only receive the benefits of a meditation practice if you actually practice. Of course you’ll miss a day here and there. I do too! The trick is to get back on track the next day, without making a big deal of the missed day or judging yourself.
Wherever and whenever! For some people it can be helpful to choose a time of day and a specific spot to meditate consistently. The routine can be helpful, especially in the beginning, in remembering to meditate every day.
It’s nice to create a little area in your home that’s just for meditation. You can keep your meditation chair or cushion there, along with anything that inspires you to practice. But a specific place and time when you meditate isn’t a requirement.
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Simple Habit is the most comprehensive and user friendly meditation app out there. Plus, Jessica has a ton of content available on the app. Try it for free for two weeks!
Jessica offers a limited number of sliding scale video call sessions for those who have financial constraints. If you’d like to sign up for that please contact us. If you live in the Los Angeles area you are also welcome to attend her donation based class Mindful Awakening.
Jessica is not part of any one lineage. She believes in combining the best of many traditions together into a delicious spiritual soup! Her teachers are Shinzen Young and Adyashanti, and she also draws great inspiration from Pema Chödrön, Michael A. Singer, Shri Anandi Ma, Tracy McMillan, and Dr. David Schnarch.
A typical class includes a instruction, guided meditation, a short talk, and a group discussion. Classes are 90 minutes long. We have lots of cushions, blanket, and chairs available for your use. You can also feel free to bring you own sitting gear if you have it. You can also feel free to bring a friend. All are welcome!
This class is donation based. Our suggested donation is $10 -$20. If you can give more, give more. If you need to give less, give less. Proceeds go to rent, expenses, and the teachers. Cash, check, debit, or credit is accepted.
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Wild Awakening: Ceremony
Invite Some Wildness into the Ceremonies of Your Life
Jessica is an ordained minister and can officiate weddings, funerals, and other big life events. She will work with you to create a ceremony that is alignment with yours and your loved one’s authentic expression. This service will include sessions in person or via video calls before and after the event, if that is wanted. Jessica brings the message of universal love, connection, and an invitation to revel in intimacy and vulnerability to all of the ceremonies she oversees.
Jessica is also available for other events such as birthdays, showers, women’s circles, conscious uncoupling with friends and family, sacred group ceremony, and performances.
Please contact us for rates, availability, and for more information.
Wild Awakening: Spirituality
Wild Awakening: Adventures in Spirituality
Waking up can be a wild ride and you don’t have to navigate it all on your own. Jessica will help guide you to paradigm shifts, deep personal insights, and psycho-spiritual awakenings. Waking up is not a magical thing that can only happen for those who sit on a mountain top for 40 years. Awakening is your birthright, and is much closer than you can imagine. Jessica nurtures and encourages your capacity to see through the illusion of a separate solid self and realize your profound connection to all things. There is no “graduation” on the spiritual path, so wherever you are there is always more to discover. Sessions consist of meditation, mindfulness, trauma and grief-resolution, writing exercises, and more. These sessions are not “one-size fits all.” Each one is tailored to the individual, taking into consideration their personal history and goals.
Wild Awakening: Creativity
Wild & Awake: Sexuality Guidance for Individuals
Explore and awaken your sexuality through coaching with Jessica Graham. Drawing from her experience as a spiritual and sexuality teacher, Jessica will guide you to deeper connection with your authentic sexuality. Through meditation, self-inquiry, mindfulness, trauma and grief-resolution, and writing exercises you will enter a whole new world of pleasure, sexual expression, self-love, and sexuality. Jessica includes exercises from her book, Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out, and brings her fun and dogma-free perspective to her work in this realm.
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Wild Awakening: Couples
Wild and Awake: Sex & Intimacy for Couples
Up-level your relationship through mindful sex and intimacy coaching with Jessica Graham. Perhaps the sexual energy between you is blocked leading to low sex drive, or there are communication issues that need attention. Or maybe you want to explore some new sexual territory and need a little help getting the ball rolling. You may already have a sex life and relationship that is going great but you are ready to explore the next adventure.
Coaching with Jessica can help. Through meditation, mindfulness, partner work, trauma recovery, and writing exercises, you can transform your sexual connection, deepen your intimacy, and increase fun and play, all within a safe and supportive space. A sexual awakening and revolution is possible for your relationship.
